What I Think April 22, 2011
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I’m a communications guy but I also feel over the years I’ve become somewhat a philosopher. One thing I love is a lively debate. In essence to create a truly interpersonal relationship you need to construct a dialectic. Now I’m sure I’ve lost you so hang on. A dialectic is simply a framework where two (or more) people come together with the idea of learning what the other person thinks and feels. It is based on the idea of a dialog. The word discussion is percussive and doesn’t really address talking at all. If I grab one of my kids for a discussion they hear lecture. In dialectic relationships I always want to be in you and you in me. That way we can understand the underlying reason for your action and you might understand the source and reason of my fear.
With this we learn and change. This is why I feel habit 4 doesn’t go far enough and it comes too late. Thinking win/win is all fine and everything but it’s just words. If I have worked on myself to the point where winning is meaningless then I will live for establishing a dialectic with you so I can soak in who you are and give you who I am. I think Jesus said it best and with a lot fewer words, “Love one another as you would love yourself.”
Now for my answer to John:
John Lester,
I think you have the wrong idea about “Be Proactive” as Covey explains it. I’ve taught this habit to a lot of people and the reactions I get is what drove me to look deeper. Covey states clearly that between a stimulus and a response is a space. This space is our place to chose the response we want to give. Covey thinks if you work on your 4 human endowments (self-awareness, Imagination, conscience and Independent Will) you can strengthen your proactive muscle and widen that space between stimulus and response so you are truly choosing your response not just reacting. This is the information I’m asked to teach on page 128 of the facilitator’s manual. Look at that section in the book if you have a copy.
I agree there is nothing new in the 7 Habits and Covey as much as says so. It’s common sense organized. Elements I feel are good is the see do get model. This is a rudimentary approach to using systems thinking (which includes feedback loops) and people understand it right away. It shows how you can be your own worst enemy. These constant actions that validate a point of view that isn’t right builds strong wiring in the brain.
There is no doubt in my mind that the 7 Habits contains a lot of truthful and useful information. I grew from my contact with it. What I’m saying is in the last 10 years a lot has changed. Neuroscience has shown us that there are remarkable connections in the brain but still we don’t know where the mind is. We understand much better the role of cognition in a person’s life and that’s good.
7 Habits challenges us to look deep inside, into that deep interpersonal life and bring about alignment and discover what it is I want to create. Mission, vision, values. Empathic listening is vital but really empathic relationships is what we are looking for. That creates the true interpersonal. I like the inside out approach and the idea the private victory precedes the public victory. I think all these ideas help us place those somatic markers that guide our thinking.
Dr. Siegel posits that in the infant mother relationship there is a mutual “tuning” of psychobiological states between mother and child. It seems that this early bonding is central to the creating of secure attachments later in life. As a matter of fact Siegel points out that biological, psychological and social domains begin to lose meaning and might disappear completely in reference to developmental and cognitive neuroscience. I’ll leave it there for now and blog a bit more in depth about these issues.
Best,
Wood
Why Learning is Important November 5, 2010
Posted by wooddickinson in Change, consulting, executive leadership, Systems Thinking.Tags: Business, change, Company, Consulting, fear, Feedback, Future, North Face, retail, Retail Trade, systems thinking, Think, Wood Dickinson
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I have people ask me what I mean when I say Learning Organization. Everyone feels like they learn every day but I ask you to stop and think about it. Does your organization allow teams to fail? Does your organization examine the actual systemic forces acting on it? Does your organization capture information useful across team lines and store it and share it in a truly useful way?
Usually the answer to these questions is no but why should I care what other teams are doing? If you haven’t noticed we are living in chaotic times. Jobs seem iffy, company survival is being tested to its fullest. If there ever was a period of uncertain times, chaotic change and second guessing going on I don’t know when its been. Not in my lifetime.
With the workforce of companies shrinking due to uncertainty employees are being asked to shoulder more responsibility which brings with it a greater chance at failure and ultimately unemployment. This is why you care about ALL the teams. We are in this together and I don’t mean just organizations in isolation. Wholesalers must talk to store owners who must talk with manufacturers so a complete picture can be gained and knee jerk reactions minimized.
The best way to do this is to delve into systems. Learn what is really going on. Look at what the principle stock is then what are the balancing feedback loops and what’s in the reinforcing feedback loops. You need to identify the driving variables so the shifting dominance in the system can be studied.
Dynamic systems research doesn’t predict the future it explores what might happen. This gives you valuable information that will affect decision-making. When all teams are working this way and you extend the systems out toward all companies that have an impact on your product or service then everyone learns what may be coming and can make better use of what little time we have to do the right things.
This sounds oh so difficult but it isn’t really. A systems thinker can look at a situation and from even a small amount of data make predictions of what might happen if the organization keeps to its current course without regard to the systems operating around it.
I saw a situation unfold in one North Face retail store that spoke volumes to me. From the limited information I had I predicted trouble was coming. I could tell they didn’t understand retail operations and were making choices based on personal loyalty regardless of what the store employees were telling the company. They completely failed at delving into systems having an impact on retail operations and I saw failure in their future with the closing of all retail outlets with in five years.
North Face makes a tremendous product but they need to leave selling it to outfitter and other retail operations that know what they are doing. The environment that has been created in their own retail stores is one which has pitted floor employees against management. No learning going on here. Check them out and see where North Face is a year from now.
Just think about it. We are all in this together. There’s enough competition without creating more with in the walls of your own company.
Where does vision come from? October 29, 2010
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In the 7 Habits we teach to Begin with the end in mind. That means you need to have a sense of purpose in your life. You need to look ahead and determine what it is you want to create as well as what legacy you want to leave behind.
I use this habit for almost everything I do. Before I begin a project or plan a family vacation knowing what the ends in mind are makes a big difference. When you are trying to go beyond simple goal setting into developing a vision of your life then you need to realize you are the creator. What is it you want to create?
You must have a rudder to move you in the direction you want to go. I remember sailing one day in Pleasant Bay off Cape Cod when the pin that held the rudder in place just fell out and sunk to the bottom. It was a rental boat so foolishly I assumed they checked this kind of stuff before they sent a boat out. I don’t do that any more.
It was completely hopeless trying different ways to fix the rudder in place. Sailboats steer by having water pass around the rudder. When that happens the water exerts a lot of pressure on the rudder. You just can’t hold it in place. Luckily we were not too far from the dock when this happened (we could have been a mile away across the bay) so we got the attention of someone to send out a motor boat and pull us in.
On a sailboat, with a working rudder, you can’t sail directly to your destination. You sail on a tack that is determined by the direction of the wind and where you want to end up. If you try to fight the wind it will always win. This means you may have to zig zag around to get to your destination. I think life is much like that. If you have a vision of what it is you want to create you have to be prepared to do some of that same zig zag stuff to get to your destination
To me vision comes from your mental creation of what it is you want. Vision should be larger and encompassing the smaller goals that are really the outposts along the way.
Now as to what that vision should be, well that’s up to you. What excites you, makes you feel passionate and alive is a good indicator you’re getting close.
How Do You Strengthen Your Proactivity? October 15, 2010
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When I teach 7 Habits I find that Habit 1 (Be Proactive) is the hardest to get through. Most of us don’t want to take complete responsibility for our current life situation or past failures. I find that people get uncomfortable to angry as I teach this. I think I’m starting to understand why.
In the 7 Habits course we all teach a simplistic model of determinism. We all site 3 basic types:
- Genetic determinism: it’s inherited in your genes
- Psychic determinism: Freudian, learned early from your parents
- Environmental: this is from your boss, your spouse, the kids, the economy, policies, etc.
This is a vastly simplified explanation of a very complex subject.
I’ve been teaching this for well over 15 years and always find the same reaction to Habit 1. It is the rare person who is self-aware enough to accept this Habit. Part of the problem as I see it is two-fold.
First of all we are mostly programmed to believe in these 3 types of determinism. In fact, the entire field of determinism has been brought under question and much of it refuted outright in our modern understanding of brain function.
In 2009 Professor Robert Plomin, a leading behavioral geneticist, wrote that the evidence had proved that “genetic effects are much smaller than previously considered: the largest effects account for only 1% of quantitative traits”.
This may come as a shock to some. The same is true with a more complete list of the types of determinism.
“Types of Determinism
Based on philosophy, determinism psychology is of various types. Some of them are:
- Causal Determinism: This psychology is based on the assumption that there is an antecedent for every event to happen.
- Logical Determinism: This is the outcome of the notion that whatever is proposed about the past, present or future fall in either of the categories: True or False.
- Metaphysical Determinism: As per this determinism, every event is caused by necessity and for a reason.
- Biological Determinism: This thesis is based on the belief that all behavioral patterns and desires are controlled by nature through factors such as genes.
- Nomological Determinism: As per this psychology, the future events are to some extent propelled by the combination of nature’s laws and events factoring the past and present.
- Psychological Determinism: This is a view that is purely based on rational thinking and human instincts that control our desires.
- Behavioral Determinism: This ideology is purely based on the reflex actions that have been governed by the environment and surroundings.
- Environmental Determinism: This psychology is based on the theory that physical conditions of an environment determine the culture of a region. To be precise, every human instinct is controlled by the stimulus response theory.
- Fatalism: This is a significant determinism psychology that says everything in the universe is governed by fate and there is no control over it.” – by Narayani Karthik – published 6/23/2010 to read click HERE.
We must keep in mind that our tool kit for change includes the practice of self-awareness found through the uses of imagination, conscience and independent will. This may take the form of making a promise to yourself then following through. Then do it again. Using imagination to create a vision of what could be.
I’m not saying determinism doesn’t play some role in our lives but current brain science is showing that much of this theory has been laid to rest.
So how do we teach Habit 1 especially in a way to keep the student engaged and not shutting down. I think that is a real challenge and may require some rethinking of the 7 Habits model but that is way too much for a blog post. Just an idea starter. One of the examples I use to help people see things from a different perspective is to introduce them to a song called “You Must Be Out of Your Mind” written by Stephin Merritt and preformed by his band Magnetic Fields.
You can hear the song by clicking HERE.
You Must Be Out of Your Mind
“You think I’ll run, not walk, to you
Why would I want to talk to you?
I want you crawling back to me
Down on your knees, yeah
Like an appendectomy
Sans anesthesia
You think you can leave the past behind
You must be out of your mind
If you think you can simply press rewind
You must be out of your mind, son
You must be out of your mind
You want what you turned off turned on
You call it sunset, now it’s dawn
You can’t go round just saying stuff
Because it’s pretty
And I no longer drink enough
To think you’re witty…
You want to kindle that old flame
I don’t remember your real name
It must be something scandalous
Lurks in your shadows
If you needed Santa Claus
To buy your gallows…
You think you can leave the past behind
You must be out of your mind
If you think you can simply press rewind
You must be out of your mind, son
You must be out of your mind”
Have a wonderful weekend…
Getting the Basics Right October 7, 2010
Posted by wooddickinson in 7 Habits, Change, consulting, executive coaching, executive leadership, Life Coach, shared vision.Tags: 7 Habits, change, fear, life coach, Think, vision, Wood Dickinson
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Times are hard now and there’s always two things that suffer when a company gets worried about money issues. The first is IT. Information Technology, even thought it is the back bone of business, is always cut. Staff is reduced and infrastructure is left to languish. Next is HR. Sure I need some Human Resource people to help in hiring and especially firing (no “laying off”) people but training, skills improvement, leadership and the like can be put on hold. The very time you need something like a strong 7 Habits program started, or executives need coaches the company cuts those efforts.
I know, I’ve been there. Even as the leader of an organization it can get difficult to get employees support for strengthening IT and initiating a strong leadership program, working to create a new organizational structure by learning what it is that you are doing right and wrong. The CEO feels he will be looked upon as wasteful and neglectful if he has to lay off people yet he spends money on an executive coach.
The very things that can help the organization survive and thrive during difficult times are the things that are shut off when they are needed most. If you face tough economics now and find that laying off people is inevitable then so be it but stress innovation for survival to the rest. There must be trust with in an organization and a lot of CEOs just feel like trust can’t happen when layoffs are occurring and pay increases are lacking.
So what to do? Be open about the corporations condition. Engage everyone in the process of reorganization so a shared vision of what needs to take place is had by all. This may take consulting help which does spend money but in the long run it may save some jobs, stop knee-jerk reactions and most of all help to build trust. If the consultant or even an executive coach seems to be offering ideas that can be formed into action plans that restructure your organization to be more effective no one will be complaining as If top management involves all levels of employees in the effort to become a more effective organization. Then the trust level will go up even as some (but maybe fewer) people are laid off.
Don’t take the easy way out by just doing business as usual and making cutbacks and causing fear among your work force. You don’t need the who’s next mentality becoming the prevailing norm. That will cut productivity as people worry if they will have a job tomorrow and reduce innovation because who wants to create new ideas or products or processes when they may get the pink slip this Friday.
I would suggest the CEO hire an executive coach that will think differently and offer alternatives and use consultants when needed to help guide the company through change. The change has to be real and substantive. It must involve everyone so a shared vision is created, trust increased and everyone feeling they are part of the solution not pawns in a chess game.





