Where do ideas come from? June 7, 2012Posted by wooddickinson in 7 Habits, Change, consulting, executive coaching, executive leadership, family coaching, Family Crisis Group, FCG, Hope, Life Coach, Neurobiology, shared vision, Systems Thinking.
Tags: Apple Store, Business, Business plan, change, Compactor, Consulting, Creativity, Dickinson Theatres, executive coaching, Feedback, Frustration, hope, IPad, KitchenAid, life coach, neurobiology, Philosophy, Professional, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Startup company, Think, Wood Dickinson, YouTube
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I was watching a YouTube video of Tony Faddall addressing the question, “Where do ideas come from?” For Tony the answer was FRUSTRATION. I think that’s a great source for someone involved in engineering. My daughter was in the Apple Store a couple of weeks ago with her new iPad. What she wanted to do is create a document and have it be on a cloud so she can update that document from any computer where the file resides. I’m a writer so this seemed elemental. But currently it can’t be done in a transparent fashion. The tec helping her said that he understood her concept and it was a good idea. Well Duh. We all live with frustration in our daily lives and it is getting worse.
I’ve noticed over the last year a disturbing trend in large corporations. For instance, our KitchenAid trash compactor has been broken most of time while my maintenance contract was ticking away. The rest of the time we just sat thinking about calling the repairman. So when I got the renewal contract in the mail I called KitchenAid service and told them the situation and suggested they should give me another year on my contract for free. Now what I just did was ask the person on the other end of the phone to walk to the moon. So, the answer I got was “Impossible.” No way. We don’t do that. Ever.
So with the challenge set, I went on a mission to get the “impossible” done. I called supervisors and got the same Impossible. Now my wife had been around with them before so she had a number for someone in the corporate office. I called her and suddenly the impossible became possible.
This super negative ‘there’s no way in hell’ attitude seems to be permeating business. When I ran Dickinson Theatres I’d ask the receptionist to direct all complaint calls to me the President/CEO. I had fun solving their problems and keeping a happy customer. I guess that’s old fashioned.
Frustration? Yes it breeds ideas and sometimes a smart person may solve the problem if he/she doesn’t get fired for doing so. Now I’m a creative guy. I write movies, short stories, books and do photography. These ideas come from a bit different place. What I say is, the day dreamers in the room will probable have an idea and do something great. Those who couldn’t daydream if they tried need not apply.
I find my ideas come from a convergence of information that at first may not look related. I also love the “what if…” game. The point is creativity is not just the property of a few but the property of all no matter if it’s computer design or programming or painting or writing a novel. Here is a good LINK to start.
For you writers out there a fun tool is The Observation Deck.
The number one biggest helper in the creative department is curiosity. My computer defines curiosity as a” strong desire to know or learn something.” Curiosity may have killed the cat but it truly is the well from which ideas flow.
What I Think April 22, 2011Posted by wooddickinson in 7 Habits, Change, consulting, executive coaching, executive leadership, Hope, Life Coach, Neurobiology, shared vision, Systems Thinking.
Tags: 7 Habits, Business, change, Covey, executive coaching, fear, Feedback, FranklinCovey, hope, Jesus, life coach, neurobiology, Proactivity, Professional, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey, systems thinking, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Think, Wood Dickinson
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I’m a communications guy but I also feel over the years I’ve become somewhat a philosopher. One thing I love is a lively debate. In essence to create a truly interpersonal relationship you need to construct a dialectic. Now I’m sure I’ve lost you so hang on. A dialectic is simply a framework where two (or more) people come together with the idea of learning what the other person thinks and feels. It is based on the idea of a dialog. The word discussion is percussive and doesn’t really address talking at all. If I grab one of my kids for a discussion they hear lecture. In dialectic relationships I always want to be in you and you in me. That way we can understand the underlying reason for your action and you might understand the source and reason of my fear.
With this we learn and change. This is why I feel habit 4 doesn’t go far enough and it comes too late. Thinking win/win is all fine and everything but it’s just words. If I have worked on myself to the point where winning is meaningless then I will live for establishing a dialectic with you so I can soak in who you are and give you who I am. I think Jesus said it best and with a lot fewer words, “Love one another as you would love yourself.”
Now for my answer to John:
I think you have the wrong idea about “Be Proactive” as Covey explains it. I’ve taught this habit to a lot of people and the reactions I get is what drove me to look deeper. Covey states clearly that between a stimulus and a response is a space. This space is our place to chose the response we want to give. Covey thinks if you work on your 4 human endowments (self-awareness, Imagination, conscience and Independent Will) you can strengthen your proactive muscle and widen that space between stimulus and response so you are truly choosing your response not just reacting. This is the information I’m asked to teach on page 128 of the facilitator’s manual. Look at that section in the book if you have a copy.
I agree there is nothing new in the 7 Habits and Covey as much as says so. It’s common sense organized. Elements I feel are good is the see do get model. This is a rudimentary approach to using systems thinking (which includes feedback loops) and people understand it right away. It shows how you can be your own worst enemy. These constant actions that validate a point of view that isn’t right builds strong wiring in the brain.
There is no doubt in my mind that the 7 Habits contains a lot of truthful and useful information. I grew from my contact with it. What I’m saying is in the last 10 years a lot has changed. Neuroscience has shown us that there are remarkable connections in the brain but still we don’t know where the mind is. We understand much better the role of cognition in a person’s life and that’s good.
7 Habits challenges us to look deep inside, into that deep interpersonal life and bring about alignment and discover what it is I want to create. Mission, vision, values. Empathic listening is vital but really empathic relationships is what we are looking for. That creates the true interpersonal. I like the inside out approach and the idea the private victory precedes the public victory. I think all these ideas help us place those somatic markers that guide our thinking.
Dr. Siegel posits that in the infant mother relationship there is a mutual “tuning” of psychobiological states between mother and child. It seems that this early bonding is central to the creating of secure attachments later in life. As a matter of fact Siegel points out that biological, psychological and social domains begin to lose meaning and might disappear completely in reference to developmental and cognitive neuroscience. I’ll leave it there for now and blog a bit more in depth about these issues.
Hope January 14, 2011Posted by wooddickinson in 7 Habits, Change, executive coaching, Hope, Life Coach, Neurobiology.
Tags: 7 Habits, Addiction, change, Edwin Black, Future, Health care, hope, neurobiology, Professional, Think, Tobacco smoking, Wood Dickinson
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I’m writing a new workshop that’s primary task will be teaching Hope. I know that it seems natural for people to be just hopeful or not but that isn’t really the case. As it turns out science has been able to displace malformed ideas and misunderstood concepts about why we do what we do. Hope falls into that category.
If the idea that genetic determinism has much impact on our daily actions and decides major overall traits such as intelligence, then eugenics would have proved to have been a successful experiment. As we know all eugenics did for us was pave the way for the Holocaust of WW II. I say that but must also mention eugenic experiments were also tried here in the USA before WW II through the sterilization of certain groups of individuals mostly those perceived as under privileged and unintelligent. To learn more about this blot on US history read the book War Against the Weak: Eugenics and America’s Campaign to Create a Master Race by Edwin Black.
Genes determine the shape of a jaw or the color of the eyes and may indicate some possibility for future illness but it does not make us who we are. Environmental determinism plays a much larger role in two ways. First the physical location where people live brings with it environmental factors people have to adapt to. Climate, geography and even political realities set up a situation that will bring on certain actions by the people impacted. Eskimos have distinct differences from Arabs and a large part of that difference is caused by environmental conditions.
The second type of environmental determinism includes the smaller family unit. As a child grows patterns are set in a neurobiological way that may cause the child to live out certain choices when she grows to adulthood that may be positive or negative. This is especially true for what happens to a child during its first 18 months of life.
So if environmental determinism creates a negative impact we are told building a proactive nature will eventually cause change in our way of life that creates a positive impact. I don’t think so. Like a smoker, the quitting of smoking is a very difficult things. Seemingly impossible for some. Why? The nicotine addiction is over in two weeks but the wires in the brain are still there telling the smoker to have a cigarette now. What has to happen is the cutting of the wires in the brain that drive smoking and putting in new wires for non-smoking. This is a very painful and difficult task.
We call it a smoking habit and like any other habit we have wiring in our brain that reinforces our actions. Wearing a nicotine patch doesn’t solve the problem. I think you’ll find that in smoking there isn’t enough proactivity in the world to help a person stop. I know. I’ve been there.
Dr. Norman Dodge suggest in The Brain That Changes Itself that that the process of rewiring our brain is not only possible but can be controlled. Only through this effort can a habit be changed. How this relates to hope is coming…